While I’m not sure I understand all the reasons, it’s obvious that marriage counselling is a taboo topic with some folks. It’s like this negative cloud is over anyone who participates in marriage counselling. I’m not sure if people perceive it as weakness or what, but the stigma is very real. Incidentally, I would argue that someone going through marriage counselling isn’t weak at all, but rather strong enough to admit he has a problem!
I’m not sure if you’re aware of this, but a pretty good percentage of couples with strong marriage participated in some form of marriage counselling at some period in the marriage (and you thought everyone who tried marriage counselling got divorced, didn’t you!). The point is that healthy marriages don’t just happen…they are not born but rather made.
Perhaps you’re reading this and your marriage is on the strong side. Maybe there is no problem at all between you and your spouse? Hey if that’s the case, I am sincerely happy for you! Nothing in the world is quite as fulfilling as a healthy marital relationship. But for so many people, I know your marriage could use a little help…even if it’s not big help, most marriages (mine included) leave some room for improvement. If that describes your situation, then you really should seek some marriage counselling.
You may or may not know this, but marriage counselling does NOT have to involve your husband or wife. You can just get some online counselling yourself….ask a few questions, get some CLEAR answers…one or two times talking to a counselor. That’s it! That’s all it will probably take for many of you. There are two online marriage counsellors in particular that I recommend. I know for certain that you’ll come away feeling better about your situation if you talk to one of these two.