Now I’m going to be honest with you and tell you that you’re probably not going to be able to accomplish this particular MEAP entirely…I’m not sure that’s even possible, at least in a literal sense. What I’m talking about here is more than just forgiving your spouse for all of the past wrongs he’s committed against you…I’m talking about forgetting them completely.
Is this possible? As I say, in a literal sense it’s not really possible to forget they ever occurred…the mind is a pretty powerful and any experience or event that is emotional is often remembered indefinitely. So if this isn’t possible literally, just what am I suggesting you to do here?
Good question, I’m glad you asked… 
What I mean here is that, for all intents and purposes, you need to act as if that past wrong never occurred. You see, once you forgive someone, you need to not count that wrong against them any longer. I know many couples who like to keep score… He wronged me 5 times, I only wronged him 4 times…etc…. But once your spouse has apologized to you, you are to forgive them completely….entirely. And that includes acting as if they never committed that wrong to begin with.
What are the practical implications of doing this? Well, probably the most obvious one is that you will never be bringing this past offense up to your spouse ever again, especially in the context of a fight or argument. It’s very common for a spouse with a grudge to remind the other partner of a past wrong or offense in the heat of an argument… But I probably don’t have to tell you that nothing good ever comes from this…in fact, usually it just escalates a situation that much more and that much quicker.
So how in the world do you do this? Well, you need to make a commitment to your spouse to forget any wrong they’ve done that they’ve confessed to you about…And how do you make this commitment? Tell them. Tell them that you know neither of you are perfect and that you’ve accepted the fact that there may be some offenses on both sides in the days of head. But also tell them that you are committed to working through these offenses, and that you are committed to not just forgiving but also forgetting…That you’re committed to not throwing his past mistakes back in his face…. Try doing this and your spouse will more than likely reciprocate…